Extreme Over-Reaction

So, this is about my extreme over-reaction yesterday. I don’t think I have had one of those recently. It was quite surprising at first; well, I guess it was just surprising in retrospect when I realised that I was in fact, over-reacting.

But, to be honest, I was really very upset. And, for the people who know me, I am usually a rational person and only react extremely when I have been pushed to my limits. Now, this is not just an extreme reaction but an extreme over-reaction. You may ask, why? Well, I was watching a TV series and I got upset by the storyline. The show is called ‘The Big Bang Theory’.

A guy falls in love with a girl who is very beautiful and they have a lovely relationship going on and then they break up. The guy is a complete nerd and the girl is someone, about whom many guys would undoubtedly fantasize about. Individual preferences might differ, but I do speak for myself when I say that I would definitely be happy to be in a relationship with someone like her. The reason of the break-up? The guy tells her that he loves her and she doesn’t know what to say. She’s confused. They both are not in the same place in the relationship. It’s quite normal and ordinary and typical. The situation could easily be reversed, I am sure. But, what I know of the guys that I am friends with; there are negligible chances of a guy saying that he is not sure about his feelings, especially when the relationship has been going for a few months. (Please discount the creeps, weirdos, desperate men/women and psychopaths) I was faced with a situation a few months ago where I was not sure about my feelings for a girl but I was confident enough to accept that and when I told her about my feelings, I didn’t mind a lot that she didn’t have any feelings for me. I am not being brave here; I am not saying that it didn’t hurt a bit but I was not completely sure of my own feelings. If I was, I might have probably tried a different approach. Of course, it did light up my face when I received a ‘Goodbye’ sms from her, the night I left for France.

Coming back to the point: I am really upset. I like the show and most of these shows; I watch them, not because of their reality, but to indulge in escapist entertainment. And I am very much upset that the show-writers had to show a break-up to spice up the show a bit. I only blame them because I am surprised that they couldn’t write anything else better to help move the show along. Why does it have to be a break-up? Oh, and if you haven’t figured it out already – I hate break-ups!!! I hate the very concept which is based on inept, childish, immature minds forming the body of people who break-up over minutely disturbing issues to extricate themselves from the prospect of actually attempting to solve them. “OH MY GOD!!! I CAN’T DEAL WITH THIS!!!!” You do have to deal with this. Do you really think that just by referring to God, He/She will absolve you from resolving the so-called ‘deal’ that you have been dealt? And, the result? A few days or perhaps months of going through a pseudo-depression phase where the ‘hows’ and the ‘why’s of the break-up will be so chewed over till not even a cow will find them palatable to ruminate.

I am not saying that people don’t get out of unhealthy relationships. It is the healthy thing to do. I am just very much irritated by the complacency with which people get into and out of relationships.

If I come back to this TV series, a nerd in a happy relationship with a hot, beautiful girl is a dream for many. Although, if fulfilled the dream loses its lustre when the girl is only that – hot. Any possibility of any intelligence so to speak of is quite remote. What I mean is, when there is such a relationship with a guy, who is not exactly the most handsome man on the planet, whereas the girl, although not the most beautiful, is definitely quite attractive, it is an achievement for the guy. It stems from a low-esteem and lack of self-confidence. The girl probably doesn’t realise it but that is so. This is not to commoditise women but it is a boost to the self-confidence. Men have always had to win the hearts of women, which has been and will always be the way, and if the right one does agree to become his Queen, he will be happy to be the King of a small hut.

So, my over-reaction. I was extremely upset and angry. There was nothing wrong in the story-line and the girl didn’t dump the guy because he was a nerd. I was just upset to see that such a nice relationship stopped being. And, it stopped being for a very silly reason. It certainly is not appetising to know that you love someone with all your heart and the other one does not. So, I vowed to never watch the series again.

Anyway, I have gone on for too long, I need to get some episodes of ‘The Big Bang Theory’ in before I go to bed.